Body Drift CONCIOUS Self-Love Cheat Sheet

To love yourself is to be at peace with all of your imperfections 

5 Conscious Practices for Developing Self-Love:

1. Mantra meditation: I love you, I have always loved you, I will always love you
2. Mirror practice: stand in the mirror and get as close as you can and tell yourself you love you (if you’re creeped out, contemplate WHY. Yes, it’s a practice, u can try something more accessible like ‘you got this!’ to begin) 
3. Non-judgement &no n-comparison practice – allow others to pass and simply notice without forming any thoughts; anytime there is comparison or judgement, every relationship is a mirror back to yourself; ask yourself what the deeper meaning is as to why you’re judging if you do 
4. Self-Compassion practice: treat yourself with the same kindness you would extend to a dear friend, loved one, or a pet.
5. Reframe Negative Self-Talk: bring mindfulness to your self-talk; try 2 speak to yourself the way you want others to speak to u; pause and self-correct “I suck” ‘’im terrible at x’’  with “I made a mistake, and I am learning from it”. I will try again tomorrow to do that ‘right’

What does it look like when we’re rooted in a CONCIOUS self-love?

 (phrase (conscious self-love* by Carl Jung)

• FROM → People-Pleasing & Poor Boundaries (Subconsciously prioritizing others’ needs to feel worthy, codependency or losing oneself in relationships)

TO → HONORING YOUR WHOLENESS & AUTHENTICITY & SETTING STRONG BOUNDARIES (accepting yourself with all of your ‘imperfections’ and advocating for your peace & worth) 

• FROM → Perfectionism as a Defense Mechanism (a relentless attempt to prove worthiness, often driven by a fear of being “not good enough” *not your fault*) 

TO: ACCEPTANCE that you are NOT for everyone & everyone is NOT for you – those who do not align will fall away, and those who value you will accept all of you 

• FROM: Self-Sabotage &/or Neglect: neglecting physical and emotional health (poor diet, lack of sleep, or addiction), ‘’getting in your own way’’ of things that are right for you (from a deep-seated sense of ‘not worthy’)

TO → Prioritizing your HEALTH & WELL-BEING & accepting support/help when needed (bc YES YOU DO DESERVE IT *clapping for you*)

• FROM → Negative Inner Critic (the not cool voice that continuously doubts abilities, compares oneself to others, or feels guilty for having desires) 

TO → SELF ADVOCACY!!! (giving yourself GRACE!!! telling your inner boss you are your own best friend and to step up!)

• FROM → Comparison and Insecurity (projecting insecurity onto others and feeling threatened by others’ success)

TO → COLLABORATION & SECURITY (feeling clear and secure in one’s identity – knowing there is NO ONE LIKE YOU ON THIS PLANET and YOU ARE UNIQUE and comparison is a dead end street) 

Listen: 

528 Hz Self-Love Frequencies 

CARL JUNG 

• Become Who You Are Afraid to Be 
• How to Build a Self-Love that no one can break 

TARA BRACH

• Letting Go, Without Giving In (dharma talk)
• Releasing Resentment & Blame (meditation)

AJAHN BRAHM 

• Give Yourself PEACE, KINDNESS, & FORGIVENESS
• Self-Love & How to Cultivate it

KRISTIN NEFF, PHd

• 5 Minute Self-Compassion Practice

1. Bring mindful awareness to the situation
2. Acknowledge the hurt/distress/ pain without getting sucked into the feeling ‘’this moment is tough’’
3. Connect w common humanity “Just like me, others suffer too” “many people deal w this too” 
4. Bring an energy of warmth or kindness to the self (physical touch – a hand on the heart or a hug, or a gentleness) 
5. Offer back kindness or support (not sugarcoating – something youd say realistically to a friend “im here for you” “what would best support you rn?” or maybe you need fierce encouragement, “You could have handled that better, and you will next time!”) 
6. Exhale it all out & return to the present